- Randomly thinking about what to say for my vows then instantly having to stop thinking about it so I don’t cry
- Thinking about the friends I’m asking to be in my wedding party and realizing just how much I love them and how I can’t wait to see them/ask them/tell them how much they mean to me
- Actually planning, I can’t help it, planning out the hall is so fun!
- Feeling special. I started planning my day even before I was engaged as a way to procrastinate on graduate school work and although fun, made me feel kind of lame sometimes. It can feel lame when you’re not actually engaged to plan, because vendors and websites are all hyped and you’re over here just being like “I’m just planning, I know he’s going to ask and I like to get a jump on things” and even though that’s valid, it can still leave you feeling like a weirdo. But now I’m engaged and get to be like THAT’S RIGHT I’M THE BRIDE!
- The DIY’s. Ohhhh the DIY’s. I want to make everything, and at first so many random people discouraged me, telling me that it would stress me out and I wouldn’t have any time on the day of to actually assemble things, but I’ve found my voice and know what I want, and that’s to DIY to my heart’s content. So that’s what I’m doing! And because I’m proactive and down to DIY, we already have so much for our wedding that’s more than a year away.
- Planning things that I know Matt will like. Let’s face it, a lot of small things guys don’t really care about, but I love taking time to make sure that it’s not just my day, that he feels represented and that guests can see that this is about us.
- Getting to be creative! After looking through tons of things on Pinterest, I decided to scrap all the normal pretty things and just do what I thought would represent two people coming together, and for us that looks like my love of books and his love of video games being mashed together in the best way possible. So I’m decorating with books and video game controllers and lots of fun things, and it makes my heart so happy.
- Getting even closer to Matt. Throughout the wedding planning and slowly realizing what we wanted (a super chill, fun and unique day) we’ve definitely grown closer with having to both compromise and realizing how much we are on the same page with what’s important and what’s not (ie catering. 10k to feed people dinner? Um, hard pass hahaha)
- Connecting with our parents. Both sides have been extremely supportive. I’ve loved getting to bounce ideas off of my parents who are just as creative as me, although they don’t always see my crazy “vision”. Connecting with Matt’s mom and seeing how excited she is (and his aunt and sister!) has been so much fun, because I’m so used to just telling my parents things that letting other people into my world and seeing them have just as much as fun has been so great. It’s also nice expanding my circle and knowing without a doubt that day of, I’ve got lots of people to rely on.
And right now, that’s it! I feel incredibly lucky to not be stressed out about this wedding, and to have it just be a big fun party. I’ve read enough (and talked ith enough people) to know how stressful it could still potentially get, but right now I’m thankful that it just feels fun and like a great creative outlet.